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你离快乐的成功者只有10道问题的距离

衡量一个人是否成功的标准有很多——一个苦读一年最终考上理想大学的复读生是成功的；一个勤俭持家让孩子受到良好教育的家长是成功的；一个入职不久即完成案子顺利升职的小白领是成功的……每个人、每个时期从不同角度看都同时拥有成功与遗憾双重属性。

对当下有不满，对未来有期待，知道如何进取并已经奔跑在路上的人，想必内心是满足而快乐的。这也算是成功的一种吧。

下面的10个问题可以检测出你目前的状态。你是否正一步步接近曾经的目标？还是浑浑噩噩中已与梦想背道而驰？心里总要有个数。

Embrace change vs. Fear change

你是期待改变还是惧怕改变？

Embracing change is one of the hardest things a person can do. With the world moving so fast and constantly changing, and technologyaccelerating faster than ever, we need to embrace what’s coming and adapt, rather than fear it, deny it or hide from it.

一个人最难做的事情之一就是接受改变。这个世界进步太快，随时随地都在发生着改变，而科技也是日新月异。安于舒适圈，轻车熟路地做事，内心自在、有安全感，混成“老油条”在后生面前指点江山……有意识地接触新鲜事物吧，看不同的世界，发现自己的不足，改变也可以是进步的前奏。

Want others to succeed vs. Secretly hope others fail

祝福他人成功还是暗地里希望他人失败？

When you’re in an organization with a group of people, in order to be successful, you all have to be successful. We need to want to see our co-workers succeed and grow. If you wish for their demise, why even work with them at all?

打游戏的人都知道，个人能力再好，团队配合不行也白搭。工作也是一样，双赢的局面是最良好的状态。和一群人在一家公司工作的时候，你要想成功，那么所有人都必须成功。我们应该希望看到自己同事的成功和进步。如果你希望他们失败，那还为什么要和他们一起工作呢？

Accept responsibly for your failures vs. Blame others for your failures

勇于承担失败的责任还是因失败抱怨他人？

Where there are ups, there are most always downs. Being a leader and successful businessperson means always having to accept responsibility for your failures. Blaming others solves nothing; it just puts other people down and absolutely no good comes from it.

人生总是充满起起落落，工作也是如此，作为一个成熟的职场人士要勇于承担失败的责任。出了问题理清前因后果，吸取教训。埋怨他人于事无补，只会让别人感到难堪，抱怨绝不会有任何好处。

Talk about ideas vs. Talk about people

你是否对事不对人？

What did we all learn in high school? Gossip gets you nowhere. Instead of gossiping about people, successful people talk about ideas. Sharing ideas with others will only make them better.

我们在学生时代都学会了什么？八卦不会给你带来任何好处。成功人士在一起会谈论自己的想法而不是八卦他人。彼此交换想法只会让他们变的更好。

Set goals and life plans vs. Do not set goals

你是否有明确的目标和人生规划？

You can't possibly be successful without knowing where you're going in life. A life vision board, 10 year plan, 3 year forecast, annual strategic plan, and daily goal lists are useful tools of the mega-successful people. Get your vision and goals down on paper!

生活中，如果你不知道自己要往哪里前进，那么你也不会成功。人生规划，10年规划，3年预期，每年的策略性计划以及每天的目标列表对于成功人士都是很有用的工具。将自己的规划和目标写在纸上。

Keep a journal vs. Say you keep a journal but don’t

是否习惯记录琐碎日常并坚持下去？

Keeping a journal is a great way to jot down quick ideas or thoughts. Writing them down can lead to something even greater. You can even use mobile apps or your Notes function in your phone. But don’t fool yourself by saying you keep a journal and not following through.

写日记是一个很好的方法来快速地记下自己的想法。记下这些想法会创造出更伟大的东西。你甚至可以使用手机的应用程序或者手机里的便签功能来写日记。但是不要欺骗自己，说要写日记但从来没有执行过。

Read every day vs. Watch TV every day

闲暇时间你是在看书还是看综艺？

Reading every day educates you on new subjects. Whether you are reading a blog, your favorite magazine or a good book, you can learn and become more knowledgeable as you read. Watching television, on the other hand, may be good entertainment or an escape, but you'll rarely get anything out of TV to help you become more successful.

每天的阅读可以让你接触不同的内容。不论是读一篇博客，自己最喜欢的杂志还是一本好书，你都会学到东西，变的更加博学。相反，看电视也许是很好的娱乐方式或者说是一种很好的逃避方式，但是要想成功，电视节目益处很少。

Continuously learn vs. Fly by the seat of your pants

把学习当成习惯了吗？

Continuously learning and improving is the only way to grow. You can be a step above your competition and become more flexible because you know more. If you just fly by the seat of your pants, you could be passing up opportunities that prevent you from learning (and growing!)

不断的学习和进步是唯一的成长方式。因为知道更多，自己就可以在竞争中掌握先机，也会更加游刃有余。如果做事总是三分钟热度，你就会错失很多机会，妨碍自己的学习和进步。

Forgive others vs. Hold a grudge

原谅和释怀是最聪明的办法

Everybody makes mistakes; it’s human. The only way to get past the mistake is to forgive and move on. Dwelling on anger only makes things worse - for you.

每个人都会犯错，这是不可避免的。唯一解决错误的方式就是原谅，然后继续前进。对自己而言，老是生气只会让事情变得更糟。

Keep a “To-Be” list vs. Don’t know what you want to be

你拥有坚定的梦想吗？

A “To-Be” list is a great way to strategize for the future. I want to be an elected official one day. I want to be a TED speaker. I want to be the CEO of a public company. I want to be a great father and husband. Unsuccessful people have no idea what they want to be. If you don’t know what you want to be, how can you achieve success? What do you want to be?

一份“梦想列表”是很好的规划，是对自己的未来有期待。不论梦想多不切实际，它都是你的欲望和动力，剩下的就是朝着一个方向不断努力了